The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts Hardcover – February 2, 2022 by Lair Torrent LMFT

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Author: Torrent LMFT Lair

Package Dimensions: 0x0x788

Number Of Pages: 280

Release Date: 02-02-2022

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A master class in relationship repair and connection.
At its core, this book delivers an inconvenient truth. Our relationships have to be a daily practice if we want them to thrive. We should treat them like we treat anything that we want to succeed, by giving them time and attention. For far too long it has been assumed that we should innately understand how to love one another. Relationships have fallen into the category of things we should know how to do. But we are not born knowing how to make a relationship work, any more than we are born knowing how to file taxes or buy insurance, and there are no classes in high school or college that teach us how to do this. The Practice of Love is that class.
In his work, Lair Torrent, a licensed marriage and family therapist, brings together concepts and tools that can actually help couples heal for the long haul. Diving beneath the symptoms most therapies focus on, he helps couples develop a deeper understanding of the wounds that brought them together and how they show up in their relationships. The 5 Practices gives the reader an opportunity to weed out and take responsibility for limiting or negative habits while allowing them to learn and adopt new and healthier practices with their partner. These are not short-term solutions, but rather a path to profound healing, deeper connection, and stronger, happier relationships.

Review
In the stories Torrent shares about his clients, he isn’t afraid to confront them and call them out. He also walks the walk by taking himself to task concerning his own relationships. Ultimately, Torrent offers concrete steps to achieving these goals and urges his patients to be mindful of their thoughts and actions and to practice kindness and love consistently. Readers willing to challenge themselves and hoping to make a difference in their relationships will be inspired by Torrent’s frank talk.

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Booklist

Torrent, a licensed marriage and family therapist, brings together a number of case studies and reflections for helping couples understand the wounds that brought them together and how they play out in their relationship. He offers a dissection of roles inherent within every relationship—wounded child, defender, inner critic—and offers suggestions for understanding and responding to each need. Torrent provides exercises to help readers identify their “parts,” put together a narrative of themselves, and let go of what isn’t relevant. ―
Library Journal

Lair Torrent has a gift for discerning the wounds that lie at the root of conflict, and for treating those wounds with honesty and compassion. Insightful, practical, and entertaining, The Practice of Love is a great resource for couples of all kinds looking to strengthen and deepen their relationships—the next best thing to working with Torrent himself! — Natalie Standiford, author of “Astrid Sees All”

Torrent gets couples working right out of the gate. From the powerful exercises to his clinical examples, his approach is compassionate but no-nonsense and his message is simple but potent, how you show up to your relationship matters. — Evan Imber-Black, PhD, author, director of The Ackerman Institute, and professor and program director of the marriage and family therapy master’s program at Mercy College

When people hear that Natalie and I are in couples counseling, they say “Oh no.” The truth is we started working with Torrent at the very beginning of our relationship. We called it Honeymoon Counseling. Often after our sessions, after an hour of opening our hearts and souls, after an hour of crying and laughing, Natalie and I would stand outside his office making out. Torrent told us that we were very good for business. It’s seven years later and we’re still the best possible advertisement: married, working with Torrent, and—thanks to his deep insights and innovative methods—continuing to grow. I realize that this is not the typical couples endorsement.